Warming sips of real life

And so it is... back to reality after three days of travel and leisure, of meeting nice people. Back to e-mails, to pending deadlines and tasks, to people who are away or with little time to spend about others, with even less affection to show about others.
Back to online life, to social networks, to talking about emotions rather than showing them, far from real life and real people with real emotions. How I wanted to never go back! That's my choice for today - more sips of real life... It could even be this as well.

This one is about pure pleasure

Spring has come and gone in Sofia few times in the last weeks. Cold mornings and evenings have been rotating with sunny warm afternoons when one wouldn't like to do anything like working in the dark office, but only enjoy their beer in the park, in the sun preferably. This is the time when the soul opens wide to the other souls around, and welcomes walks in the blossoming city gardens, evenings out with friends, socializing, social drinking, etc.
I was lucky enough to socialize during these weeks with a few friends whom I've never been so close before and some whom I've become very close in the last couple of years. And it was a pure pleasure! Feeling just like what I've felt when touching that wall of stones which appear to be soft :-)
We went out for drinks (not coffee, but a particular sort of wine - Cycle, by Minkovi Brothers, the purple label)
for sushi dinners - especially one of them was in a great great place, with these little origami cuties stretching down along the wall, decorating elegantly the white room and furniture:

We also spent an evening in the interactive video game corner - wow, my first time! and it was crazy:-)

I got drunk 4-5 times in three weeks, but that didn't bother me - spring has come and we enjoyed life as it is... great! And thank you for that March, people - I do love being with you :-)

The importance of being wrong

This blog was started about coffee, but there are some other things in life almost as important as coffee and coffee drinking - these are the choices we make everyday, the choices that in fact are our life. So I will allow myself to deal with them a little as well. This one is about being wrong and is inspired by a great TED talk which you can see here.
If we are to live, and not just exist, we need to make choices and take some action every single day of our lives. But the question that bothered me for a long time now, is how do people deal with the consequences of their choices. Especially if they were about interacting with other people. I've been raised under the philosophy 'try to be always right and the best'. And I've tried. And - not surprisingly - I failed in being always the best and the right.

In the race of making the best choices, with not enough time for healing the wounds in cases the decisions turned out to be wrong, I seemed to forgot that the consequences depended on other people as well... And on the choices they've made, the state of mind they are in. In my own mind they have been puppets whose strings were moved in ways I was able to predict. And believe me, many times my predictions were right (am I not a smartass?), but sometimes they were not - what a surprise! So... with the time, I've started to think about it more and more. And the question was - what have I done wrong? Because - obviously- I was the single maker of these wrong decisions with terrible consequences. Which is exactly what the woman in the TED link above mentions - if we do a wrong step, then there's something wrong with ourselves. This I accepted for a long time, but now I found out I'm asking myself the wrong question. I did what I've decided to do, what my personality and intuition considered the best to do. And that is me, that is the way I'm dealing with my life. No regrets (thanks, Robbie!)
If people react in ways that I didn't expect or predicted, then let it be. Unexpected results may lead us to new perspectives and - for sure - to new choices to make, new relations to develop or approach old relations in a brand new way. If it doesn't work, leave it behind and go on, I'd say (I'm sure a yoga guru would say it in a much better way but that's my blog, and that's my choice of words!). Be open to that and try to face the results with a friendly wink to the people involved. And be tolerant to your own choices. And drink only good-quality coffee. Oops, sorry, I was talking to myself here ;-)