The importance of being wrong

This blog was started about coffee, but there are some other things in life almost as important as coffee and coffee drinking - these are the choices we make everyday, the choices that in fact are our life. So I will allow myself to deal with them a little as well. This one is about being wrong and is inspired by a great TED talk which you can see here.
If we are to live, and not just exist, we need to make choices and take some action every single day of our lives. But the question that bothered me for a long time now, is how do people deal with the consequences of their choices. Especially if they were about interacting with other people. I've been raised under the philosophy 'try to be always right and the best'. And I've tried. And - not surprisingly - I failed in being always the best and the right.

In the race of making the best choices, with not enough time for healing the wounds in cases the decisions turned out to be wrong, I seemed to forgot that the consequences depended on other people as well... And on the choices they've made, the state of mind they are in. In my own mind they have been puppets whose strings were moved in ways I was able to predict. And believe me, many times my predictions were right (am I not a smartass?), but sometimes they were not - what a surprise! So... with the time, I've started to think about it more and more. And the question was - what have I done wrong? Because - obviously- I was the single maker of these wrong decisions with terrible consequences. Which is exactly what the woman in the TED link above mentions - if we do a wrong step, then there's something wrong with ourselves. This I accepted for a long time, but now I found out I'm asking myself the wrong question. I did what I've decided to do, what my personality and intuition considered the best to do. And that is me, that is the way I'm dealing with my life. No regrets (thanks, Robbie!)
If people react in ways that I didn't expect or predicted, then let it be. Unexpected results may lead us to new perspectives and - for sure - to new choices to make, new relations to develop or approach old relations in a brand new way. If it doesn't work, leave it behind and go on, I'd say (I'm sure a yoga guru would say it in a much better way but that's my blog, and that's my choice of words!). Be open to that and try to face the results with a friendly wink to the people involved. And be tolerant to your own choices. And drink only good-quality coffee. Oops, sorry, I was talking to myself here ;-)